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Fallen Off The Bike? You can still ride it.

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"Just because you've fallen off the bike, doesn't mean you've forgotten how to ride it"  I can't remember whether it was my friend, Mel or I who come up with that little tidbit, but as soon as I heard it, I knew I had to write about just that. We all make new commitments to ourselves, and probably daily.  "I am going sugar free", "I am going to do 3 gym classes a week", "I will start getting more sleep" etc.  But how frequently are we giving up all too easily as soon as we slide a little?  We think that as soon as we waiver a little bit, that we have totally failed, so we may as well give up now.  We've become all or nothing.  Truth is, we're going to fall off the wagon every day, after all, it's how we learn.  The real skill is how we bounce back from our setbacks.  This is the gig.  It's really about a commitment to re-trying, time and time again and not beating ourselves up when we do slide.  Eating that one tim-tam doesn't mean that you've completely reverted back to your sugary days.  You probably used eat 3 a day, and now you're down to 1.  That's great (literally taken that one straight from my life..).

After committing to commitment, you will find that it will get easier and easier and you'll shorten the recovery time, each time.  You'll start to bounce back quicker and quicker.  You'll even start to enjoy the process as you'll know what to expect and you'll quickly learn that you can do it.  By appreciating the progress that you are making and realise that you are achieving far more than you realise.

It's not about being perfect, for we will never ever be perfect.  It's about our commitment to being better, doing more (or sometimes even less), to eating better, to sleeping longer, to being more active, to meditating regularly, to saying "I love you" or "I forgive you" to someone (and yourself!), ultimately it's about feeling better more often.

Let yourself off the hook and commit to doing better tomorrow, and the next day.

xSx

BUDGETING - The "3 Step Success" Series

This week's topic is "Budgeting". We're coming into the spending season of the year and what better time to get on top of our spending then now. 1: Know exactly what your weekly expenses are. 2: Don't carry a credit card. 3: Carry cash.

🔷Once you know exactly what your weekly expenses are, establish how much of it is actually essential spending. Now you can allocate set amounts for saving and weekly spending. Set up scheduled transfers for your allocated savings so you're not tempted to spend it.

🔷Rather than carrying a credit card that is so tempting to use, have a key card linked to an account with emergency money (just in case). Credit card spending is a massive trap! Keep your card in a safe place at home for those essential online purchase, like flights!

🔷Since you now know how much allocated spending you have for the week, carry it in cash. It the best way to keep track of spending and you're less likely to part with cold hard cash.

Let me know in the comments below👇 which tips you'll be implementing this week and let me know how you're going implementing them. For more tips and articles head over to www.facebook.com/lifecoachsam3

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NIGHTS - The 3 "Step Success" Series

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This week's instalment is "Nights" 1: Switch work off. 2: Do something for yourself. 3: Scheduled bed time with 8 hours sleep.

Turn electronics off, especially work! Our minds and bodies have been going all day, night is the time to wind down. Work really can wait until the morning.

Do something for yourself. You've been going all day after all. Whether it be cooking a nutritious meal, going to the gym, a hot bath, reading..whatever. By doing this, you allow more to your day than just work, your soul will thank you for it!

Sounds simple (and it is) but how many of us are actually doing it? Lying in bed on your phone doesn't count! By getting a full 8 hours sleep each night, you're allowing your body and mind to fully repair and you'll wake much fresher to take the new day on.

Implement these 3 simple little steps into your night routine and you'll be reaping the benefits! For more tips and action steps, head on over to www.facebook.com/lifecoachsam3 and my instagram page at @lifecoachsam. If there is a topic that you would like me to cover, let me know in the comments below IMG_2316.JPG

Knowing When to Let Go and Why No-one is Doing It

IMG_8699 As humans, we have a hard time letting go. We have been taught that if something didn't work out how we had expected then we have somehow failed or that we have been rejected. We assume that we were the problem or that we did something wrong. We then live in the "what ifs" and we continue to live in a state of "if only".

What we really need to be taught is that you were not being rejected you were being re-directed, and it's a wonderful thing. Society, as a whole, has controlling tendencies, we feel like we can control the outcome of every situation and that it must go our way and if it doesn't then we were hard done by. Doesn't that sound like a restricted life to live? Once we learn to truly let go of our expectations and trust that there is a greater plan for us, then we can start to live a more relaxed life.

To have faith in the unknown can take a bit of guts at first, but it is totally worth it. It can sound a little foreign initially to sit there are say "I know that [insert situation] didn't work out because something better is on the way" but it's true. Life doesn't have to be a struggle. We can choose to acknowledge that something/someone wasn't right for us, let it go and get back to enjoying the beauty of life, or you can sit and question "why?". There is so much happiness in staying calm and knowing that we are deserving of perfect outcomes for us at that time. Sometimes a situation simply provides a life lesson to be learnt. A lesson that will provide the knowledge we need to take forth with us on our life journey. Sometimes the hard decisions have to be made for us. We form emotional attachments to expected outcomes and we have a hard time seeing it play out in any other form.

When you find yourself stuck in the letting go process, try some of these exercise:

1: Sit calmly in a quiet room. Say to yourself (silently or aloud) "I have learnt everything that I needed to learn from this situation/person/event and its time to let it go. I release you and I have faith that something better is on its way.".

2: Talk it out with a trusted friend, but change the objective of the conversation. Talk with them with the aim to release rather than complain. Hear their advice and speak of the journey you will take to move forward.

3: Meditate! If you are new to meditation don't be scared off. All it takes is 5 minutes a day of silently monitoring your breathe to calm your mind and start to see your situation in a more peaceful way.

4: Write a release letter. Write down everything that you would say to a person that has hurt you, write down how you feel, write down how you expected something to go. Release it all, and finish the letter with a plan to move forward, knowing that something better is on its way.

Remember, you are always growing, always evolving and you are going to outgrow things. It is inevitable. You will outgrow people, jobs, homes, cars etc. Be wiling to let things go and embrace the new. This is where the excitement is, new stories, new experiences, new encounters. Be open to new opportunities as you don't yet know what you can discover. But if we stay in our limited thinking with thoughts like "this should have happened" or "if only I did this differently" you will miss all of the new and wonderful experiences you are yet to have had yet. You may be walking down a different path to the one you had expected, but have faith that it is leading to a greater destination.

P.S. Remember every smile is contagious, so go spread the good stuff!