how to be happy

I really need you to read this..

This week I want to get really honest about a topic I feel we, as a community, need to be talking wayyyy more about and we definitely shouldn't be feeling guilty about doing it either.

We're not taught about this thing, in fact, we're taught quite the opposite. We're taught that we need to put ourselves second so we're not acting "selfish". We're taught that if we take time out for ourselves, we're "indulgent". We're told to not "think only about ourselves" and to not be "full of ourselves" or "vein".

Any of these phrases/sayings sound familiar?

When really, we should be taught the exact opposite.

If you haven't guessed it by now, I am talking about Self Care and Self Love.

And I'm not just talking about #selfcaresunday, I am talking about a deep, self honouring, respecting & nourishing self care practice. The type of self care that allows you to take your life to the next level. The type of self care and love that fills you up so much that, you cannot help but share your light with everyone that you meet.

Self love & care are vital ingredients to living a happy, fulfilling and abundant life.

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We cannot give from an empty cup. So if there is little left of us at the end of the day, we're unable to make a positive difference in the lives of others. As we all want to be giving back to the world and to reach every goal that we have set out to achieve, we can't until we fully restore ourselves to the point of overflow, we simply have very little to give.

So, what does self care look like?

  • Sleep, sleep, sleep. First and foremost, our body need rest and proper restoration. We are all living in a constant state of stress throughout the day, to varying degrees. Put the phone on flight mode and get to bed an hour earlier and if you can, sleep in a little longer.

  • Say NO. No can be a complete sentence. If doing something doesn't serve you at that time, you don't have to do it. We put so much pressure on ourselves to show up for everyone else, that we forget to show up for our own needs. Embrace saying no. Every 'no' is saying 'yes' to yourself.

Burn out leads to stress- in both the body and the mind.

  • Meditation. If you follow me, you know I swear by meditation. Not only does it work, it works wonders. It has changed my life, and I do not say that lightly. Give a 'loving kindness' meditation a go and reclaim that self-connection you once had.

  • Unfollow. With a constant connection to the outside world in the palm of our hands, it can be hard to fully switch off. We have comparison constantly ticking along and we're usually left feeling less-than after we've been on the scroll. Remember, you're responsible for the accounts that you follow. If an account causes you more harm than good, its time to let that account go.

  • Listen to your body. What message is your body trying to send you? How is it trying to get your attention? Stressing out? Maybe you need to slow down. Are you properly hydrated? How is your skin? Maybe you need a relaxing bath? Pay attention to the messages of your body, every symptom has a cause and its likely stress.

The more we fill ourselves up, the less we need from the outside world.

So next time you're feeling guilty for taking time out, remind yourself that it's not #treatyoself or selfish, it's essential.  Want to know exactly where your energy is going?  Check out my free Self Awareness Workbook, did I mention its totally free!

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Can we really manifest whatever we want?

We've all heard of the Law of Attraction and 'abundance' has become a buzz word thanks to The Secret and The Teachings of Abraham. But what actually is the Law of Attraction and can we really have anything we want?

Law of Attraction is a universal law, in the same way that gravity is. The basic premise is "Like Attracts Like" and in scientific talk, your energy attracts like energy, or frequency, vibration (whatever word you like to use). For those who think it's just new-age woo-woo talk, check this out it- Quantum Physics

So, technically yes, you can have what you want, or more specifically, you can have whatever you feel.

You see, the way it really works is this; your feelings determine your vibration/frequency /energy, which attracts back to it like circumstances, people and events. Let's say you're feeling grateful, you'll attract more things to feel grateful about. Or let's say you read an email first thing in the morning that set you right off, that then started a snowball into a frustrating and stressful day. Your circumstances matched your vibe. And given we're ultimately talking about manifesting abundance here, if you want more abundance, you've got to feel abundant.

Now, as you've read this far down, I'm guessing that you're ready to start creating what you really want in your life!

So here you go; the manifesting process is:

  1. Ask
  2. Believe
  3. Receive

Now I'll break it down for you:

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Ask

The easiest of the 3 steps. We all know how to ask for what we want; a new job, a partner, a holiday.. we could go on forever here. The key is to be as clear as possible about what you want. What work will you be doing at the new job? What qualities are you looking for in a new partner? Where are you craving a holiday too? The clearer you can be, the better.

Write it down, pin it on your vision board, talk about it, listen to podcasts on it. whatever helps you gain the most clarity about your desires, do that.

Believe

As they say, you've got to believe to receive. Do you believe you can have whatever it is that you're asking for? Because if you don't, you won't. You can't, it's not a vibrational match. Let's say that you don't believe you can get that new job.. how would you be showing up to that interview? You'd probably be nervous and you would definitely not be feelin' all that confident. Compare that with an absolute knowing that you are worthy of this new job, you're then able to go in and nail the interview!

Receive

This is where it can get tricky. Most people stumble on being able to believe in something they cannot yet see. "I'll believe it when I see it " (pretty much every Dad has said this to us growing up.. I can hear my Dad's voice now). We all grew up with the idea of only believing in what our eyes could see. Allow yourself to receive. Know that it is coming. Because why wouldn't it? Only your own disbelief can block it.

When you order from a restaurant, you don't go out the back and into the kitchen to chase down your order. You don't micromanage the cooking process. You sit back and allow your meal to come to you when its ready. This process is no different to that. Ask, sit back and receive.

Bonus tip

Did you know that you're asking for what you want each and every time you recognise what you do not want? Yep, as soon as you recognise something that you do not like, you're asking for what you do want. You're not liking the traffic, so by recognising that you do not like this traffic, you are becoming aware that you do want easy flowing traffic.

Double Bonus tip

If it doesn't come on your timing, accept that something better is on the way, or you're alignment is still a little off and you may need to realign with the faith/knowing/belief that your desire is on the way. It is only our alignment with what we want that is off, never the universe not delivering.

..AND A LITTLE MORE BONUS

Start to feel grateful right now.  The more your appreciate what is already in your life, the more abundant you'll instantly feel.  You'll realise that you're not without and that you're life is rockin'!  I LOVE gratitude, so that's why I created the Gratitude Workbook to help you take your life to abundant heights.  Grab your Gratitude Workbook here.

Start off with something small like a car-space or chocolate. Have fun with your manifesting. More fun you can have with it, the easier it becomes!

Let me know how you go and what amazing things you start to manifest!  Jump into my Insta, I LOVE connecting with you there.

Love,

Sam x