This week I want to get really honest about a topic I feel we, as a community, need to be talking wayyyy more about and we definitely shouldn't be feeling guilty about doing it either.
We're not taught about this thing, in fact, we're taught quite the opposite. We're taught that we need to put ourselves second so we're not acting "selfish". We're taught that if we take time out for ourselves, we're "indulgent". We're told to not "think only about ourselves" and to not be "full of ourselves" or "vein".
Any of these phrases/sayings sound familiar?
When really, we should be taught the exact opposite.
If you haven't guessed it by now, I am talking about Self Care and Self Love.
And I'm not just talking about #selfcaresunday, I am talking about a deep, self honouring, respecting & nourishing self care practice. The type of self care that allows you to take your life to the next level. The type of self care and love that fills you up so much that, you cannot help but share your light with everyone that you meet.
Self love & care are vital ingredients to living a happy, fulfilling and abundant life.
To find out exactly where all of your energy is going, check out my totally FREE Self Awareness Workbook.
We cannot give from an empty cup. So if there is little left of us at the end of the day, we're unable to make a positive difference in the lives of others. As we all want to be giving back to the world and to reach every goal that we have set out to achieve, we can't until we fully restore ourselves to the point of overflow, we simply have very little to give.
So, what does self care look like?
Sleep, sleep, sleep. First and foremost, our body need rest and proper restoration. We are all living in a constant state of stress throughout the day, to varying degrees. Put the phone on flight mode and get to bed an hour earlier and if you can, sleep in a little longer.
Say NO. No can be a complete sentence. If doing something doesn't serve you at that time, you don't have to do it. We put so much pressure on ourselves to show up for everyone else, that we forget to show up for our own needs. Embrace saying no. Every 'no' is saying 'yes' to yourself.
Burn out leads to stress- in both the body and the mind.
Meditation. If you follow me, you know I swear by meditation. Not only does it work, it works wonders. It has changed my life, and I do not say that lightly. Give a 'loving kindness' meditation a go and reclaim that self-connection you once had.
Unfollow. With a constant connection to the outside world in the palm of our hands, it can be hard to fully switch off. We have comparison constantly ticking along and we're usually left feeling less-than after we've been on the scroll. Remember, you're responsible for the accounts that you follow. If an account causes you more harm than good, its time to let that account go.
Listen to your body. What message is your body trying to send you? How is it trying to get your attention? Stressing out? Maybe you need to slow down. Are you properly hydrated? How is your skin? Maybe you need a relaxing bath? Pay attention to the messages of your body, every symptom has a cause and its likely stress.
The more we fill ourselves up, the less we need from the outside world.
So next time you're feeling guilty for taking time out, remind yourself that it's not #treatyoself or selfish, it's essential. Want to know exactly where your energy is going? Check out my free Self Awareness Workbook, did I mention its totally free!